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- Ben and Sara seemed to have one of the more solid relationships of “Love Is Blind” season eight.
- But in episode nine, Sara starts to have doubts after finding a TikTok, which Ben thinks is about him.
- Here’s what to know about the video and the surrounding drama.
Warning: spoilers ahead for the first twelve episodes of “Love Is Blind” season eight.
“Love Is Blind” season eight contestant Ben seems to be in trouble after his fiancée Sara finds a TikTok of a woman calling a contestant that fits his description a “shitty” person.
But it looks like they move past the drama in the newest episodes.
In episode nine, Sara confronts Ben about the video, which features a woman crying and saying she’s tired of reality TV “celebrating shitty men,” after seeing the “Love Is Blind” cast for the Minneapolis season. The video is blurred out on the show.
Ben says he thinks the video is about him but that they haven’t spoken in over four years.
“She’s already making stuff up. She was like, how I manipulated and did all these different things,” he said.
Ben says they dated for a few weeks after meeting on Tinder, but he ghosted her before the relationship progressed. He adds that he doesn’t remember anything else about what happened or what he did to hurt her.
But Sara is not convinced, and after further interrogation, Ben says that he may have messaged her after they stopped dating but he never initiated the conversation.
In this week’s episodes, Sara and Ben have a brief conversation about the drama before moving on.
The video doesn’t seem like a dealbreaker for Sara.
This is not the first time social media drama has shaped storylines on the show, though this normally happens after the season has aired. However, more viewers sleuthing over cast members has led to drama bubbling off-screen in recent seasons.
The TikTok video appears to have been shared last March
Over the past month, multiple TikTok users have criticized the men on season eight, without specifying who they are talking about. Business Insider has not verified the videos, and they were published too late to be the one Sara saw in episode nine.
Last March, MPR News, a Minneapolis-based news organization, shared a TikTok video in which a reporter said the series was being filmed and asked locals where they’d spotted the filming crew.
Netflix has not confirmed when “Love Is Blind” season eight was filmed.
On March 2, 2024, Andra Berghoff, a TikTok user who uses the handle @hopeyoufindyourdad, posted a video that fits the description of the video Sara saw.
In the video, Berghoff appears teary-eyed while recalling how she recognized someone from a leaked list of cast members.
“I’m just exhausted and tired of society rewarding shitty men who treat women terribly and manipulate and lie all the time,” Berghoff says.
In a video posted two days later, Berghoff says the man, whom she doesn’t name, blocked her after she posted the video. She didn’t explain what happened between them, but said he was a lot older than her, manipulated her, and “shaped the way I viewed men and dating going forward.”
Berghoff says she believed he was on the show for fame.
Ben says in episode nine that he blocked the unnamed woman after seeing the TikTok video, in case she tried to expose him.
In January, after the cast list was released, Berghoff shared a third video in which she criticized Netflix for not removing the man.
In the video, Berghoff adds that he went to the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis, was a member of the college’s baseball team, and became a real-estate agent after college.
This lines up with details of Ben’s life on his LinkedIn account.
Berghoff has not confirmed that the videos are about Ben, and Ben has not commented on them.
Sara has been the only one to address the TikTok drama
Berghoff has turned comments off in her videos about “Love is Blind,” but she and Ben have not responded to the drama.
On Sunday, Sara posted a clip of her conversation with Ben about the TikTok video on her Instagram story.
She captioned the post: “Two things I learned watching this scene: 1. Smiling in serious situations is clearly a trauma response of mine. 2. Way too much botox.”
Sara told US Weekly on Tuesday that she saw the TikTok for the first time off-camera while she was at a brewery with Ben and his friends. She did not mention who posted the video.
“At this point, it’s been posted for a couple hours and there were hundreds of comments tagging Ben specifically. I was really confused because she never specifically said his name, but I’m like, ‘How are all these people pinpointing that it’s him? And how do all these people know who he is?’ I was really trying to understand,” Sara said.
She said a producer separated them so that they could talk about the video for the first time on camera, but when they got home, the woman had shared a second video about Ben blocking her.
Sara said she didn’t feel “unsafe” with Ben and didn’t know how serious to respond to the videos, because the woman didn’t specify how Ben harmed her.
“I knew I had to take it seriously and it was always in the back of my head. But also, I’m an enneagram 2 — naturally a caregiver. I was protecting Ben. I was protecting our relationship, and at the time, I was like, ‘I honestly don’t wanna talk about this more than what we need to, but we obviously need to talk about the facts and I do have questions,'” Sara said. “And so when he was saying he doesn’t remember, it’s like, ‘OK, then you need to tell me at least off camera what you do remember.'”
Sara said that she believed people can change so she didn’t want to “discredit him and our relationship” because of the video.
Business Insider has contacted Ben, Sara, Berghoff, and Netflix for comment.
